How to Overcome Fear with Love

 Perfect Love

1 John – Chapter 4

How to Overcome Fear with Love

Experiencing the love of God enables us to overcome fear and to develop a deep relationship with Him. It changes our confidence and our ability to walk with God.

Fear Is a Learned Reaction to Danger

Small infants are fearless because they do not recognize dangerous situations and for this reason, they need continuous supervision. As they learn to see that some situations produce negative consequences, they develop fear. Fear is an expectation of negative experiences.

This fear is healthy in the proper circumstances. You don’t want to go without fear in a cage with wild animals or jump in front of a coming car. These actions are foolish. That kind of fear protects us and we want to maintain it.

Negative Fear Is Imagined

The fear referred in 1 John 4:17-18 is fear that we create because of our insecurities and we imagine danger and project negative outcomes when we should not.

It is the fear that we experience because we do not trust God and do not dwell in His love. It is the fear that Adam felt after he sinned (Gen 3:10).

This fear can take many forms: fear of judgment, fear of the future, fear of failure, fear of rejection, fear of success, etc. It affects us as if the imagined danger is real. It triggers our flight or fight response and paralyses our ability to think and to act properly.

Learning to Overcome Negative Fear

Fears can separate us from God because when we fear, the imagined danger controls us and we are not in the presence of God. This realization points us to the solution to overcome fear.

As you learn fear through negative experiences, you overcome it through a positive one. You overcome it by going in God’s presence. Then you experience His love and learn to trust in Him. Perfect love casts out fear (1 John 4:18).

My Experience with Overcoming Fears

I remember that before I became a believer I experienced many fears and phobias.

After I became a born again believer, I naturally went in prayer to my Heavenly Father when I was fearful, just as a young child would go to his earthly father for protection. It is the natural thing for him to do.

However, I soon discovered that when these emotions came to me, I found victory by quoting and meditating on Scriptures. I had memorized a few Scriptures I would quote in specific situations, and the fears would go away. Some of these Scripture were Roman 8:31, 37, Hebrew 13:6, Psalm 23:4, Isaiah 53:5.

This is how I learned to meditate on the Scriptures. It is very effective.

In time, these episodes became less frequent and weaker. Finally, one day, I realized that I had completely overcome fear in my life. All my fears were gone.

Some Fears Have Roots in Your Childhood.

One fear I overcame without any effort was the fear of flying.

I let that fear in me when I was very young. I remember my father telling me stories of friends he had in the aviation during the World War II. These stories had affected my young mind and I became afraid of flying.

This fear did not go away when I became born again. It made me very uncomfortable each time I took a plane. However, because I did not need to fly very often, it did not bother me too much and I did not really pray about it. I did pray for all my other fears that made my life difficult.

Some time passed and one day as the plane was taking off, I realized that all fear had gone. Praise God, it has not come back.

Our Love Relationship with God We Love Him

Experiencing God’s love makes our relationship with Him stronger and deeper. We have fellowship and confidence in Him. We see Him as a loving Father and develop boldness for the Day of Judgment. The way we see ourselves also changes. We learn to see ourselves as His children and to walk as Jesus walked (1 John 4:17, 2:28).

Questions to Consider

  1. To what degree does this type of fear have a hold on your life today?
  2. Have you noticed any difference between now and before you accepted Jesus as your Savior?
  3. How has your experience of the love of God changed over time?
  4. In what way is fear related to your identity?

About Pastor Maurizio

Maurizio Mingardi, in 1972, had an encounter with God that totally changed his life. From a scientist doing research in Quantum Mechanics and an atheist, Maurizio became a believer and a disciple of Jesus Christ. Then a spiritual journey began. He was filled with the Holy Spirit and later started Mount Zion Church of the Firstborn in Ottawa, Ontario. Maurizio has been in the ministry for more than 30 years and is presently the Senior Pastor of Mount Zion Church. He has also filled a number of executive positions in public and religious organizations. He has been elected President of the Evangelical Church Alliance Ministerial Fellowship of Canada. His goal is to help people to know God, discover and use their gifts and fulfill their destiny.
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4 Responses to How to Overcome Fear with Love

  1. Liliane6600 says:

    When I first read this morning’s message, I thought of physical fear. When I go to the dentist, at first, I’m fearful that the freezing may not be enough and that it may be painful. Every time, I either focus on a scripture or sing a worship song in my head until I’m reassured that all is well.
    Whenever I fly, at take off and at landing, again, I connect with God through scripture.
    These are only small fears, however, they don’t cripple me.

    Then I recalled one instance of crippling fear when I was still working. It`s kind of a long story and I`ll try to keep it short (difficult for me to do here….). In any case, the idea is that I went ahead and got the Treasury Board to agree to use up monies for a project from the current fiscal year budget even though legally, title to some asset had not been transferred to the entity. I had asked the TB for consideration informally, via e-mail and to my surprise, they had agreed to do so. I was quite happy and proud and immediately sent an e-mail to the program Director General and Manager….. I did not hear back right away. Then I started thinking that I ought to have asked the DG’s permission to go to the Board (there were a few other projects in a similar dilemma) and from there imagined that the DG and Mgr were very upset with me. By the following day, still had not heard, was in tears, called the DG, left a message in tears, she got worried, called back, had no idea what the problem was. In the end, it was simply a matter that both the DG and Mgr had not read the e-mails. I had been crippled by fear of rejection. I don’t think I connected with God in that situation and carried it to the extreme.

    Now, I usually connect with God right away. My fears are more along rejection or hurting someone unintentionally. Fortunately, those situations don’t present themselves too often! When they do, I usually talk with Maurizio and he usually helps me bring them down a few levels.

    • Different events can trigger fear depending on our previous experiences. Our interpretations and expectations are the results of conditioning. Jesus victory and the Word of God set us free from conditioning and empower us to be more than conquerors.

      When fear comes up in us, we know where the battle field is. Then, we can take up our spiritual weapons and overcome. PTL. The greater one is in us.

  2. Charlette says:

    As a timid person in my adolescent-hood, I found love in God’s family that made me fearless. I felt so confident to express myself in God’s house that I almost forgot to control myself at a certain point. I had to realize by experience that the Holy Spirit should remain in control in every single thoughts in my brain and any little decision I have to make. I praise God for his daily love in my life despite my shortcomings, I am more than conqueror by his love surrounding me!

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